Have you ever noticed that some people just seem to focus on the negative, so much so, that really you don’t want to be around them, as they kind of drag you down?
I am sure we all have acquaintances who are always complaining. Even when their comments may be valid, it is hard to buy-in and listen because you’ve heard it all before and nothing has changed. They are stuck on that negative cycle, going round and round. So we switch off, tired of giving advice and no change made.
At a recent training session, Brendon Burchard shared that he’d had someone who attended one of his programs complain about his language. In fact, she’d made a point of tracking the number of times he used certain words.
First he refunded her money which was her request, and also apologized for his word choice, noting that he had to watch his words and be more careful not to offend in the future.
But then as he thought more about it, he asked his team to replay the tapes and count up the number of times he’d spoken about hope, confidence, believing in yourself, etc… The end number was impressive and far out-weighed the negative words.
So in his response to the woman who complained, he made the observation that unfortunately, when you focus on the negative, which in essence is what she did, you miss out on the good stuff. How true.
When we spend our time zeroing in on what’s wrong in our lives, we give attention and energy to the negatives, and that is what we attract. On the other hand, when we focus on the positives, and take an abundance approach, we attract more of the same.
Let’s face it. If you had to choose between doing business or being friends with someone who is always doom and gloom, versus someone who gives off positive energy, – who would you choose?
Recently a friend observed that no matter what, she always managed to find the silver lining in negative situations. Not easy, and sometimes it takes time, but that attitude will take her places.
As we start a new year, let’s start with a positive attitude, because as Rosalie Wysockie used to say “Your attitude determines your altitude.”