That's what Arianna Huffington's mother would say to her daughter when she was caught up and complaining about a situation in her life.
You've got the control, just change the channel - that was her advice. And likely we all know this, but we don't. Perhaps because as women we are pleasers, and we want to be liked, or maybe we are scared of the outcome if we say no.
Yet deep down we know that we should just quit while we are ahead, instead of working so hard to make the impossible, possible.
I remember years ago getting into a volunteer role where I was flattered to be asked. My ego driven decision to say yes, when I should have known better, but I rationalized this was a career-affirming move, so I took it on. Only to regret it later.
Who's in charge for the remote in your household. Often it is the guys, so we end up watching sports, or worse, flipping from one channel to the next, never getting involved deeply in anything. Sound familiar?
Do you ever wonder what would happen if you actually chose what you want to watch or more importantly, what you want to do.
It is often hard to extricate yourself too.
If you could change the channel - what would you get rid of? What would you take out from your menu of choices? Is it something at work, within the family or perhaps a volunteer role? What’s the worst that could happen if you did? And more positively, what would you gain if you did?
It’s a new year. Wipe the slate clean. Listen to your gut instinct. Do what is best for you. Yes, you. Even if you don’t want to do it for yourself, think of how you are a role model for your daughters. There. Now it is easier to let go.